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The Roast Series

10 Saturday Oct 2026

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(There has been a mishap with published/unpublished posts in the last hour, sorry for the incovenence to mty subsribers, notifications have been sent automatically but that will end up as an error 404, it was a bulk batch botched publication, thanks for your understanding)

This a series I’ll write about coffee and the evolution of our cosumption and production habits around this formidable bean over the next weeks, followed by a similar serie on cocoa and one on tea. Stemmed from the splendid part of Tchaikovsky’s The Nutcracker, with the delightful Chocolate Danse, the Arabian or Coffee Dance amd the Tea danse. Hereafter are the posts themes :

From Roast to Ritual: How a Younger Generation Rediscovered the Soul of Coffee

The Sanctuary of the Corner Table

  • The Sensory Hook: the timeless atmosphere of independent café culture—the hiss of the steam wand, the distinct aroma of freshly ground single-origin beans, the soft hum of conversation, and the joy of observing life from a quiet corner seat.
  • The Cultural Shift: coffee is not a rushed morning commodity, but a deliberate ritual. Younger generations (Gen Z and Millennials) are leading a massive cultural pivot, treating independent coffee shops as modern creative salons, reading rooms, and community refuges.

The Numbers & The Rebellion: The Third Wave Surge

  • The Market Momentum: The specialty coffee market is valued at over $70 to $77 billion and growing at a robust annual rate (roughly 8% to 10.5% CAGR), with North America and Europe leading the charge.
  • Out-of-Home Culture: roughly 35% of specialty coffee drinkers consume their coffee out-of-home daily, viewing independent shops as essential “third places.”
  • The Counter-Revolution: Discussing the quiet rebellion against corporate, uniform coffee models. Explain how independent torréfacteurs and micro-roasters reclaimed the craft through single-origin traceability, ethical direct trade, and an uncompromising focus on flavor profiles.

Neighborhood Sanctuaries Worth Traveling For

  • New England (Maine, New Hampshire, Salem MA):
    • Highlight spots like Flatiron Coffee Bar in Portland, Maine (championing a brilliant no-Wi-Fi policy that encourages reading and sketching) and Elements in Biddeford (blending coffee, books, and community).
    • Mention cozy local staples like Old Mill House Coffee in the Merrimack Valley.
  • European Flagbearers (Vienna, Edinburgh, Strasbourg):
    • Vienna: Where historic living-room comfort meets modern micro-roasters like Salzi and Jonas Reindl.
    • Edinburgh: Where Old Town pioneers like Artisan Roast and Lowdown Coffee turn extraction into a precise art form.
    • Strasbourg: Where Alsatian artisan counters (Bistrot and Co.) celebrate local neighborhood warmth and fine filter brews.

The Evolution of Milk and Gear

  • The Plant-Milk Revolution: Exploring how alternative milks (oat, almond, macadamia) have evolved from niche dietary requests into core menu drivers, requiring baristas to master microfoam textures just as rigorously as traditional dairy.
  • The Home Barista Renaissance: Bridging the gap between visiting boutique cafés and recreating that elevated experience at home.

Slowing Down in a Fast-Paced World

  • How taking twenty minutes to brew a thoughtful cup or sit in a neighborhood café anchors us against the digital noise.
  • What is your favorite local independent roastery, or how do you shape your own coffee ritual at home? Let us know in the comments below!

Picture below is from eth Nutcracker , in a choreaography by Welsh Stanton, ( courtesy of Houston Ballet on YT)

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The Viennese Café Experience

09 Friday Oct 2026

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For a coffee lover and history enthusiast, the coffee experience in Vienna is absolutely unique. The literary café culture that built the reputation of Vienna fin de siecle (fueling the bubbling kettle of unprecedented ideas in psyche, arts, music and architecture), remains unmatched.

Admittedly, Paris invented the “salons littéraires”, where ideas were discussed among a group of happy few, mostly from the upper class (what else)sipping costly beverages such as coffee, chocolate and tea in costly porcelain cups and silver tea or coffee sets. Later, the coffee houses were a good excuse to discuss philosophy, business and politics (think the Procope). The revolution of 1789 put a brutal halt to this fashion, and politically inclined cafe goers disappeared. Paris has specific coffees : the “café créme” (espresso with hot milk + foam) and the “café noisette”(espresso with a drop of cold milk)

Italy brought to the world the dolce vita and perfected it to an art, reflected in the maravigliosa creation of the macchiatto (among others) and the numerous delicious pastries that can be enjoyed with it, under the sundrenched porches of splendid places adorned with unsurpassed architecture.

Vienna, however, did something neither Paris nor Rome ever did: it turned the café into an institution and the coffee choice into a real menu. The Viennese coffeehouse was never only a place to drink coffee. It was a second living room, an office, a library and a stage. One could sit for hours over a single cup, read every newspaper on the rack, and never be hurried, a courtesy so entrenched that UNESCO added Viennese coffeehouse culture to its Intangible Cultural Heritage list in 2011. The coffee tradition remains indissociable with the comprehensive varitions of its base, the espresso or doppio espresso.

A Viennese coffee menu can be intriguing, and deserves to be explored. The choice uniquely encompasses the 350 year relationship Vienna has with these exotic beans and the names of the variations tell of how deep this relationship has developped, to reach every level of the Viennese society, since the Siege of Vienna in 1683, and I’ve written about it. Vienna’s enduring love for coffe was built on the countless sacks of curious beans the fleeing Ottomans left behind them, after the Polish Winged Hussars of King Jan III Sobieski of Poland led a decisive charge on September 12, of that year.

Any of the historical cafés in Vienna can become a favorite, and the choice can be difficut. Yet the historic cafés have become victim of their success, and often now, during peak season, a reservation is mandatory.

And Vienna peak season is all year round.

The traditional coffee menu in every café offers the classics : the Melange, the Einspänner (milk coffee with whipped cream), the Kapuziner (black with thick whipped cream served in a glass for the looks, calling to mind the robes of the Franciscan monks), the Fiaker (black with whipped cream with a dash of liquor, a favorite warming beverage among the Coaches in their horse carriage, or Fiaker), and the Kaisermelange, nowadays sadly seldom listed in the Menu, and which is often listed as a unique Viennese specialty, consisting of an espresso mixed with a raw egg yolk, sweetened with honey and fortified with liquor such as Cognac, brandy, or rum. It was on offer almost everywhere, it has now become a rarity. Sometimes a traditional double mocca with whipped cream (a classic) is given a different name across several cafés. No biggie, the taste remains intact.

Numerous cafés had the brilliant idea to create a uniquely theirs coffee specialty, like the Franz Landtmann Kaffee in the Landtmann, the Oma Kaffee at the Sperl, the Barbara Gertsner coffee or Anton Gerstener coffee at Gerstner. This adds of course a sense of uniqueness and helps differentiates (apart from the decor and the atmosphere) the offer, in an otherwise relatively unified set of coffee preparations.The tradition has become somewhat challenged by the current trend, and many cafés’ coffee menus have shortened their once comprehensive coffee offer only to increase their smoothie, matcha or matcha-style section. Trend or traditon, there is a public for both, yet it would be a pity to make one disappear for thebenefit of the other. After all, Vienna enthusiasts and tourists want the full coffee experience, particularly since the ubiquitous matcha smoothie can be enjoyed in a growing number of waterholes in any other place in the world, even at home.

Every major figure in Vienna fin de siecle had their “Lieblingscafé” (cherished or favorite café). the Café Central, with its airy salle was the lair of intellectuals and writers, such as Peter Altenberg (who even had his mail delivered there), Sigmund Freud, Arthur Schnitzler, Stefan Zweig, Alfred Polgar, and Leon Trotsky. The Edwardian atmosphere of Sperl, witnessed the early founders of the Vienna Secession feverishly discuss their blossoming movement in 1897, alongside actors and architects (Klimt, Moser…) . Kokoschka, politicians (Julius Raab, authors like Thomas Mann, and musicians such as Gustav Mahler were regulars at the café Landtmann . Around 1900, the Café Museum, opened in 1899 and designed by Adolf Loos, became another meeting point for Klimt, Schiele, Otto Wagner, Franz Lehár and the Secession circle. The austere interior earned it the nickname “Café Nihilismus.”

Even before the joyous and morbid decadence of the 19th century, Vienna’s coffehouses welcomed famous guests : W.A. Mozart and L. van Beethoven were frequently seen at Café Frauenhuber (the oldest café and still almost untouched by modernity) in 1782–1791.

The ritual remains today as it has matured over time : quietness, coziness, a moment of one’s own, a porcelain cup or a glass (to enjoy the contrast between coffee and cream), a big crown of whipped cream, and a glass of cold water served alongside, to cleanse the palate between sips and to remind you that nothing here is rushed.

The slice of cake should not be missed. But don’t miss the opportunity to pair it with a fluffy pastry either.

In this regards, Viennese confectionners and Pastry chefs working at the “Konditoreien” or “Zuckerbäcker” (literally: sugar baker) know their craft, they extremely rarely disappoint. Most pastry shops double as Café. Try Demel (est.1786), Heiner (est.1840), Gertsner (est.1847), Sluka (est.1891), or Oberlaa (est.1974), to name a few among the most sought after. Crème de la Crème is a fairly player (2017), but a serious one.

As I come to a close, I must lastly mention Aida, which is a bit of a UFO in the sea of historically charged cafes intrically entangled with art, politics, and humanities. No outstanding or famous personna is particularly linked to Aida’s, and it’s all right. Aida has a uniqueness in and of its own. It is both a Konditorei and a Café and most importantly, Aida was the first Café chain to be established in Vienna, in 1913. The Aida flagship konditorei set up shop in the 9th district, followed by a Chocolaterie and several shops followed suit. Before WW1, 10 shops were up and running, only to be destroyed during the bombing of Vienna. But Aida went up back again,. A Namesake of the Opera by Verdi, Konditorei Aida’s fate mirrored in a curious way some of the ordeals and triumphs of Verdi’s heroine. Later, Aida’s founder son, Felix Prousek was also one of the first to introduce theItalian -style coffee and espresso machine in Austria. Several locations have been closed, but many remain with an enjoyable vibrancy. The pink and cream with coffee brown decor brings a pop of joy and their fluffy, light Kardinal Schnitte is still a favorite of mine.

Aida, in my mind and certainly for the well traveled English reader, can be likened – down to the shutting down of several of their locations too – to the once also prolific pastry-shops cum cafe Patisserie Valerie (est. 1926) in London. Both have a je-ne-sais-quoi of old-fashionnedness, excellent quality and an appreciated affordability, as well as a warm welcome. Quite the lovely combo.

While you cannot import the marble tables or the fin de siècle genius of the Imperial city, you can borrow the ritual of old Vienna and recreate it at home.

A dedicated cozy corner, with comfy cushions, equipped with a competition coffee maker, excellent coffee of course (I recommend bringing back home packets of your favorite coffee bean brand, either bought at the Café itself when available or in a grocery store, I, for one, favor Meinl), a foam whisk, maybe a good book, good porcelain, a proper espresso base and a massive dollop of cream is all it takes to turn coffee time into a small act of resistance against hurry.

Enjoy the flavor, enjoy the moment, a slice of heaven in a cup.

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Morning brew

14 Thursday Sep 2023

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Consciousness, drawing, ink, Mushrooms

Copyright FlorenceVitel 2023

Apparently some mushrooms be dried and blend into a powder can be used in place of ground coffee. We’re talking reishi, cordyceps, lion’s mane, shitake, Chaga etc… I’m not sure I’d drink such a beverage, yet in a coconut yogurt….why not.

I have to say the mushrooms I chose to model for the drawing are none of the above, but are the still *naughty* and illegal liberty caps. Love the name, don’t understand why they are deemed dangerous by the F*D*A. Could it be maybe because there’s the war on consciousness is still going on since Mr Nixon came to power?

I leave it for you to decide.

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Steampunk mushroomology

08 Friday Sep 2023

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Steampunk and the Mushroom. Copyright Florence Vitel. Sept 2023

Mushrooms: I enjoy hunting them in the woods, cooking them, sharing a delicious meal with mushrooms with friends and family. My favorites are chanterelles, morels and lion’s mane (tastes like crab cake, when made with the right seasoning).

Unlike some of my former university friends, I’ve never tried shrooms, yet have listened with great curiosity the plea of Paul Stamets to decrim’ the usage and growing of psylocibe fungi, as healing devices for various ailments and as a way to access deeper ( higher😉?) levels of consciousness.

His views in the matter got me inking….

How do you like your mushrooms?

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An idea

21 Tuesday Mar 2023

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Coloring books are all the rage. They are supposed to calm the stressed urbanites, soothe anxiety and create peace of mind.

I love to draw and create images with Indian ink.

I have indeed observed that when I draw in the evening, I have access to a better quality of sleep. Insomnia seems to be put in a checkmate position.

So I decided to create a coloring book. For other insomnia sufferers or just art-loving kindred spirits that appreciate a touch of magic or fantasy, unafraid to use their imagination to see beyond the mundane of everyday objects. Somethings a bit like that ( see below)

copyright Florence Vitel 2023 – Gatsby Amanita Muscaria

As a dear soul recently told me: “It’s about time you did it.”

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A new beginning

21 Tuesday Mar 2023

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A new King is about to ascend to the British throne.

It will be a jolly good reason to throw a party. Like for the Jubilee, many here will join the festivities and celebrations. It may not be Coronation Chicken and trifle or Pimm’s but more probably Prosecco, bubbly, scones, and BBQ.

I’ll probably join one or throw a party myself for the Pimm’s aficionados among my friends. Who knows, life’s full of surprises!

I’ve made this bunting with the official emblem of KCIII, what do you think?

I’ve created matching cake toppers, fun quotes, and invitations.

I think I’ll create a party kit !

Will you be inclined to celebrate the new King?

So long,

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Straw man. “I’m just a patsy”

22 Sunday Jan 2023

Posted by Floreva in Life in style

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When seemingly senseless or outrageous events occur, one question is always on my mind: Cui bono? (Latin for: Who benefits from this? I’ve studied Latin for 7 years at school, might as well be put to use once in a while)

This next November will mark the 60th anniversary of sad events.

On Monday 25th November 1963, three men were buried, after they’d been assassinated, all part of the same curious case. How strange.

Two were supposedly killed by the third, who would be shot 2 days later by a shady character, a strip club owner, with ties to the mob and probably government agencies.

One of them was the 35th President of the USA, JFK.

The second was a policeman of Dallas PD, JD Tippit, a striking JFK lookalike.

The third was a covert CIA operative (but never acknowledged as such later by the agency), Lee Harvey Oswald. He was also the pasty, the fall guy, without a motive to kill a president.

Bizarre. It inspired me to create this ink drawing. (below).

Lee Harvey “Patsy” Oswald- Ink drawing copyright FV Jan 2023

I like logic, I like when facts make sense or can be explained with solid coherence and congruity. I’m rational and have a no-nonsense approach to things.

Blurred zones of mist and foggy explanations irritate me. I don’t suffer fools gladly, especially when some of those fools think they are smartasses that think we (the public) are too stupid to put straight facts together, point out loopholes, and draw our own conclusions.

In that respect, I never subscribed to the narrative of one lone nut killer in Lincoln’s, MLK’s, JFK’s or RFK’s cases…

Because so many people had to gain from those deaths on political, economical, social, military, and civil rights levels that it’s just too good to be true or coincidental that those reformers and progressists suddenly, at the most opportunistic time, become the target of an alleged nut job, and that things don’t change.

Edgar J Hoover, the FBI director, could produce within the next hour after the shots were fired on Dealey Plaza and JFK was rushed to Parkland hospital and died, a complete profile of the ex-marine and secretly (but that was denied by the agencies at the time) covert CIA operative and “lone shooter” Oswald.

How convenient.

A fabricated profile would be a better rendition of the reality that prevailed at the time.

JFK- JD Tippit composite split image

Now, the only question that begins to provide an answer is:

Cui bono? Who benefits from the crime(s)?

Who benefits from JFK being out of the way and no longer here to promote peace, integration, and equal civil rights, as well as his brother, Attorney General RFK on a mission to dismantle the mafia?

Who gained from an ex-marine, supposedly a defector of the USA for Russia, a covert CIA agent, being labeled the killer of a president, so that any deeper investigation would immediately stop?

Who benefited from the lookalike of JFK being shot too around the same time? Could it be so that he would serve as his double for the president’s autopsy photoshoot?

Before blasting : “Conspiracy theory!”, ponder for a moment.

Why are there so many inconsistencies, discrepancies, contradictory pieces of evidence, falsifications, magical appearance or problematic disappearing of evidence, conversations in reports, testimonies, notes, records, tapes, footage, etc?

Why, why, why? Who gained from all this?

Newly declassified documents and archives are now accessible and provide documents that shed light upon many zones that have remained murky or deliberately been muddied until recently.

If the theory of the lone shooter who allegedly fires 5 shots which among them 3 are fatal, through the foliage in less than7 seconds, on a moving target, (with one bullet making twists and turns up in the air to harm 2 men in 4 different spots) and doesn’t miss his target, makes you question the official narrative, I leave it to you to do a little digging…

Even the JFK Presidential and Library Museum website leaves room for thoughts on this, stating that: “Bullets struck the president’s neck and head and he slumped over toward Mrs. Kennedy. The governor was shot in his back.”

If you’re ok with the Warren Commission findings, I hope this post has not stirred your beliefs.

But yes, really, the key to the mystery resides in the many answers (that declassified documents can now provide) to this simple question: Cui bono?

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Luncheon on Grass

16 Thursday Jun 2022

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I never liked this painting of Edouard Manet.

Because the women are naked or half naked while the men are fully clothed (with dark and quite heavy clothing, no less). And the foreground man seems to be pontificating. He’s wearing the hat of some students of the time.

As a woman, I felt it to be offensive. And I didn’t like, and still don’t, the display of patronizing way to, once more, assert a supposed superiority of male over female humans. So, pen being mightier than sword, here’s my countermeasure to this ongoing sexism.

It seems to me that the stark contrast shows how shocking it is, because it’s a seldom seen reverse of the “roles”. And it reveals how groomed we have been into thinking it’s ok to see a naked woman sitting between those two clothed men, with her female friend, half naked (or half dressed), knee deep in the pond behind them. Curious.(Original painting below).

This type of fantasist painting also reinforced in the collective consciousness the idea that it’s acceptable for women to be gallivanting in rivers in their undies or have luncheon naked.

Don’t get me wrong, I know it shocked people at the time, just as I was unimpressed when I first saw it. It brought fame to the painter as well as controversy, as Manet knew perfectly well how to use it ( look no further than his “Olympia”).

Art historians deemed this painting his most famous, because Manet brought nature into his painting to a perfect rendition. Ok, maybe. Probably here, fame (because of scandal) morphs into remarkable execution. Yet, I’m not convinced. I’d rather they were ALL naked…

And the fact that the woman breaks the “4th wall”, while unclothed could be read as an invitation for later… intimate games.

It also indicates a rule being broken by Manet.

It’s not a portrait, it’s a group painting. Looking at us, this young lady is showing she’s unashamed of her naked body (a good thing in my book), but in 1863, it could be read differently. And it sure sparked notoriety and controversy. The former because of the latter.

But still….

What kind of idea is that, if not another desire to portray women in a less than respectful way?

This is part of the so called “celebration of femininity” and beauty of the female body.

It’s just another lie to objectify women, evacuating their soul and personnality (and their consent maybe too?) of the equation and letting them know that they have nothing to say about it.

It’s also a trickster way to brainwash visitors into thinking that it’s the way things are and must be perpetuated.

This painting maybe a feat in terms of….. impressionist craft…. but it’s rubbish as to what message it aims at delivering and it’s time society stops celebrating art that devaluates this half of humankind.

Curiously, painting naked female body it ok. But painting or drawing naked male body and you’re bound to receive a warning, even be flagged as offensive and rated R. (hence the little club I had to put on the private parts of this gent for viewer sensitivity and to avoid to shock wordpress) .

As long as its not showing signs of … action… why should it be?

Why naked female body is ok and not male naked body? Why AGAIN a difference of treatment?

This society model is sickening.

But it’s changing, thank God(dess).

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Spell – Queen of Sheba

06 Monday Jun 2022

Posted by Floreva in Life in style

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If the Queen of Sheba had been given a smartphone, what would she have done?

Well, what (most) everybody does, probably becoming addicted to the tech and the rabbit hole it is…

So, this is my latest Smartphone addiction serie installment.

What’d you think?

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The Johnny Depp trial and why it matters

01 Wednesday Jun 2022

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Johnny Depp

Just my thoughts here, a bit more grave pondering than usual. Bc as Mr Chew said, it’s out showing that the truth is worth fighting for.

Truth hath prevailed. Copyright Florence Vitel


The verdict has been given, and Johnny Depp wins. And with this, it’s all the silenced victims of arrogant abusers that, in a way, win. The gain here is the awareness being brought to unseen abuse, that happens between two ordinary sentences, actions, smiles, even. Behind closed doors, when there’s no witness. The other beneficial thing is that maybe now abused men will be taken seriously and get the strength to speak up.
Behaviors like his abuser inflicted on him are seldom understood by those who have the luck not to have been exposed to it for years. Too often, the abusers are deemed “difficult” to cope with, by not intimate or close family members that do not experience it first hand.
They are not difficult, they’re cruel, they choose to behave that way, they never take responsibility for what they do and they complain about everything regarding their victims.

This trial matters because the abuse that occurs behind closed doors is doubly damaging because people unaware of such behaviours can simply not fathom what it’s like to b on eth receiving end.

This trial matters, because narcissism has been too long discarded as a particular “irritability” of the perpetrators, and such actions, the verbal abuse have gone unchallenged, unpunished, and uncalled, for too long. The Meetoo wave has brought awareness to unwritten rules rampant within the movie industry, the beneficial result being that narcissism was brought to daylight, The personality of 45th president, being the narc he is, with many of his outrageous remarks, has been analyzed by experts and psychologists, and as his gross disrespect and despise for disabled, veterans, women, scouts, religions, etc… has been named for what they are : traits of a narc PD. Thus bringing into the common language and to ordinary people tools and words to understand what they might have been exposed to for so long, but for which they had no way to comprehend aside from a one-fits-all category: difficult.

BPDs and narc personality disorder are better understood, as they are detailed, and documented like never before. Body language experts help us understand the subtleties and signs, psychologists put names on all the manipulation and conniving techniques and tools they use to ensnare their victims. By explaining and giving access to a vocabulary and linking them with patterns of behaviors, they give the abused a path to having their pain and suffering, the very fabric of their painful reality, a possibility first to be precisely mapped out, understood, and recognized. And a path to healing. A key to self-restoration and closure. It gives them space and provides strategies to protect themselves, t finally being able to respond without being invalidated by the abuser. It allows victims to shake off the guilt because society demands we act a certain way. If the abuser is an aging parent, the abused child must nonetheless “honor” and sometimes provide for the said abuser. Well, it begs to consider if an abuser, because he/she is aging, must therefore be forgiven and get away with the cruelty and abuse he/she chose to inflict because it’s easier for a society to close its eyes a little longer to things that prove all is not rosy in modern western civilization.

This trial also draws attention to the fact that men can also and are abused. And shall not be mocked. Johnny Depp had et courage to set his life under the microscope, to get to the truth and have it recognized for what it is. He’s given a voice to silenced abused men, and he’s helped silenced victims of quiet and devastating abuse share their pain and have it recognized and validated. In a good way.


On a personal level, this trial has brought me so much closure, bc my mother is the same type of abuser.
This verdict, the awareness it allows, feels like a breath of fresh air.

Thank you, Mister Depp.

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Johnny Depp ink drawing

28 Thursday Apr 2022

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Finished my ink drawing.

Johnny Depp is not only an great actor and musician but also a fab painter.
He has decided to sell his NFT (Never Fear Truth, brilliant tongue in cheek play on NFTs) collection, & parts of the proceedings will go to Children Hospital Charities.
And regarding what’s happening in Fairfax, it seemed appropriate to recycle this advice, Never Fear the Truth and incorporate it in this ink piece.
So this drawing is a lil’ homage to this good soul.

#justiceforjohnny

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Johnny Depp. Ink drawing copyright Florence Vitel

Ink drawing copyright Florence Vitel

Johnny Depp. Ink drawing copyright Florence Vitel

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A very Proustian year

22 Tuesday Feb 2022

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November, 18th 1922. It’s a cold gray morning in Paris, temperatures plummeted, and the following week would be colder.

This was the day when Marcel Proust, unforgettable author A la Recherche du temps Perdu, or In Remembrance of Things Past (nowadays retitled In Search of Lost Time, less poetic, if more accurate), would die.

He’d been finishing correcting and editing his last Opus, the last tome of the Recherche, with his devoted Celeste, his governess, until 3.30 am.

Too soon gone, a genius writer, forever connected with a delightful cake, the madeleine. And forever linked to Normandy too, Cabourg, more precisely, which was the model for the fictional town of Balbec.

Map of Proust’s Normandy by Proust Ink

Good bye Mr Proust.

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Spell – A ciggie and a perm

31 Monday Jan 2022

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Because how would one spend their time while awaiting the hair rolls to do their magic?A lil’ browsing, a lil’ scrolling, a lil’ nicotine inhaling.Just a little, innocuous. Can stop whenever…But surreptitiously, inconspicuously it creeps in…And so groweth the addiction.

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Spell – Cooking time

28 Friday Jan 2022

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Spell – Wine a little

26 Wednesday Jan 2022

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Even the best of wines can be outshined by a little screen and its tricks.

How sad.

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